Is Your Relationship Nourishing you..... or Quietly Draining You?

This questionaire is designed to help you reflect on how your relationship feels over time, not just in isolated moments.

Grab a pen or open notes on your phone, and choose the option that feels most true, even if it's uncomfortable.

As you go through this, take a moment to check in with yourself to-are you showing up in the way you'd hope your partner would?

Take note of your answers as you go, and at the end of the quiz, you will be asked which letter you chose the most: A, B, C, or D.

When you're upset or stressed, your partner:

When you raise an issue, your partner typically:

After spending time together, you usually feel:

When something goes wrong in your life:

Your partner's contribution to daily life (home, responsibilities) is:

When you try to be lighthearted or playful

You feel comfortable expressing your needs:

When your partner is struggling:

Your partner's effort over time has:

When conflict happens, it usually:

You feel like you have to "watch yourself" (tone, words, reactions):

When you set a boundary:

Your partner takes accountability:

You feel appreciated in this relationship:

When your partner does something hurtful:

The emotional "weight" of the relationship feels:

You feel safe being fully yourself:

When plans or expectations change:

Your partner's actions match their words:

You feel respected in day-to-day interactions:

When you imagine your future with this person:

You stay in this relationship partly because:

Your nervous system around them feels:

If nothing changed in this relationship for 5 years:

Deep down, you believe this relationship is:

You're almost done

Take a moment to look back over your answers.

Go through your responses and notice which letter you selected most often: A, B, C or D

Trust your instinct here; don't overthink it. Once you've identified your most frequent answer, select it below to see your result.