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A private self-reflection

When something doesn't fit anymore

This is a private space just for you. There are no right answers, no scores, and no categories. Only you and I will read what you write here. Take your time, this is 15 minutes that belong entirely to you.

Your first name

Your email address

Section 1 - Where your energy actually lives

Q1. On a typical evening, once everything and everyone has been dealt with, what's left of you?

Your first honest answer is the right one. Don't overthink it.
Q1. On a typical evening, once everything and everyone has been dealt with, what's left of you?
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Q2. Think about the last time you did something purely for yourself - not as a reward, not to recover, not to be a better version of someone else's person. When was it, and what was it?

Even "I honestly can't remember" is an answer worth sitting with.

Q3. Which of these feels most honest about how you move through the world right now?

These aren't types or categories, they're feelings. Pick the one that stops you.
Q3. Which of these feels most honest about how you move through the world right now?
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Q4. Is there a part of your life you've gone numb to that you keep going through the motions of, without anyone knowing you've quietly checked out?

This is a private space. You don't have to protect anyone's feelings here.

Section 2 - Who you've become, and who's been lost.

Q5. Is there something you're carrying that you haven't said out loud to anyone, not because you can't find the words, but because you're not sure anyone in your life would fully understand?

You don't have to name it here if it's not ready, but noticing it exists is enough.

Q6. Where have you learned to make yourself smaller - quieter, more agreeable, less inconvenient, in order to keep things running smoothly?

Q6. Where have you learned to make yourself smaller - quieter, more agreeable, less inconvenient, in order to keep things running smoothly?
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Q7. Is there a version of you - a younger you, a freer you, a you from before everything got so serious, that you've quietly left behind? What was she like?

She doesn't have to be a distant memory or she might just be someone you haven't had space for in a while.

Q8. What expectations from your family, your culture, your profession, or your own younger self are you still honouring, even though you're no longer sure they belong to you?

These don't have to be bad expectations. Some of them may have served you well. But do they still fit who you're becoming?

Section 3 - What you actually want and what's in the way

Q9. If guilt, obligation, and other people's expectations were removed from the equation entirely, what would you actually want your life to look and feel like in three years?

You don't need to know how. Just allow yourself to want it first.

Q10. What do you tell yourself when the thought of making a real change comes up? What's the story that keeps things exactly as they are?

Q10. What do you tell yourself when the thought of making a real change comes up? What's the story that keeps things exactly as they are?
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Q11. What is the one thing you most want to feel differently about in the next 12 months, even if you can't yet see how?

Keep it to one thing. Your instinct is right.

Q12. Finally, what made you stop and do this today, rather than any other day?

There's no small answer to this question. Something brought you here.