DALI Relational Pattern Check™

Discover the relational patterns that may be influencing who you choose, how you connect, and what you do when connection feels uncertain.

Choose the answer that best reflects what you usually do, not what you think you should do.

There are 9 questions. There are no right or wrong answers.

Your result is a starting point for reflection, not a fixed identity or diagnosis.

PART 1 - WHO YOU CHOOSE
1. What usually makes you really interested in someone?

I can see the person they could become.

They have the looks, career or lifestyle I want.

Something about them feels familiar to me.

We have strong chemistry or an intense connection.

I feel like I could help them change or grow.

I worry I might not find someone else.

Being chosen by them would make me feel good about myself.

We share similar values, beliefs and goals for the future.

2. If you notice something that worries you early on, what might make you stay?

I believe they could change.

They still have many of the things I want in a partner.

The relationship feels familiar to me.

The chemistry between us is really strong.

I think I could help them with their problems.

I worry I might regret leaving or not find someone else.

Being with them makes me feel wanted or good enough.

We share important values and long-term goals, so I want to understand whether the concern can be resolved.

3. If you're not getting what you need, what might make it hard to leave?

I keep thinking about what the relationship could become.

They still have many of the qualities I want.

The relationship feels familiar, even when it isn't good for me.

The chemistry or emotional highs are hard to walk away from.

I feel like they need me.

I'm afraid I won't find someone better.

I don't want to lose the feeling of being chosen by them.

We share a vision for the future, and it's difficult to let go of that compatibility.

PART 2 - WHEN YOU REALLY CARE
4. When you really care about someone, what are you most likely to do?

I do a lot for them, sometimes more than I should.

I put my needs aside to keep them happy.

I try hard to show them why I'm a good partner.

I do more of the calling, texting or trying to stay close.

I hold back my feelings so I don't get hurt.

I stay even when I've been unhappy for a long time.

5. When you're not getting what you need, what do you usually do?

I give or do even more.

I ask for less or keep my needs to myself.

I try harder to show them what I have to offer.

I try harder to get their attention or feel close again.

I stop sharing as much of myself.

I put up with it and hope things get better.

6. Which of these happens to you most often?

I do too much and end up feeling tired or unappreciated.

I keep my needs to myself, so they may not know what I really want.

I feel like I'm always trying to prove I'm good enough.

I'm usually the one trying to keep us connected.

I protect myself, but it stops me from feeling truly close.

I stay through the same problems for longer than I want to.

PART 3 — WHEN THINGS FEEL UNCERTAIN
7. If they suddenly become distant, what do you usually do?

I do more for them, hoping it brings us closer.

I ask for less and try not to cause problems.

I try to show them why I'm worth choosing.

I call, text or try to talk more so I know we're okay.

I pull back and stop sharing as much.

I wait and put up with the uncertainty, even when it hurts.

8. If you argue and worry they might leave, what do you usually do?

I try to fix everything, even when it isn't all my responsibility.

I keep quiet about what I really think or need.

I try to prove that I'm worth staying with.

I keep trying to talk until things feel okay again.

I shut down and stop sharing how I feel.

I let the problem go, even though it hasn't been solved.

9. If the same problem keeps happening, what do you usually do?

I keep giving, helping or doing more.

I ask for less to avoid arguments.

I try harder to become the partner they want.

I keep trying to talk about it or get us close again.

I distance myself so I don't get hurt.

I keep putting up with it, even though it hurts.

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DALI Relational Pattern Check™

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PART 1 - WHO YOU CHOOSE
1. What usually makes you really interested in someone?

2. If you notice something that worries you early on, what might make you stay?

3. If you're not getting what you need, what might make it hard to leave?

PART 2 - WHEN YOU REALLY CARE
4. When you really care about someone, what are you most likely to do?

5. When you're not getting what you need, what do you usually do?

6. Which of these happens to you most often?

PART 3 — WHEN THINGS FEEL UNCERTAIN
7. If they suddenly become distant, what do you usually do?

8. If you argue and worry they might leave, what do you usually do?

9. If the same problem keeps happening, what do you usually do?

Would you like to stay connected with DALI ?

DALI Relational Pattern Check™

First Name

Email

PART 1 - WHO YOU CHOOSE1. What usually makes you really interested in someone?

2. If you notice something that worries you early on, what might make you stay?

3. If you're not getting what you need, what might make it hard to leave?

PART 2 - WHEN YOU REALLY CARE4. When you really care about someone, what are you most likely to do?

5. When you're not getting what you need, what do you usually do?

6. Which of these happens to you most often?

PART 3 — WHEN THINGS FEEL UNCERTAIN7. If they suddenly become distant, what do you usually do?

8. If you argue and worry they might leave, what do you usually do?

9. If the same problem keeps happening, what do you usually do?

Would you like to stay connected with DALI ?

PART 1 - WHO YOU CHOOSE
1. What usually makes you really interested in someone?

PART 2 - WHEN YOU REALLY CARE
4. When you really care about someone, what are you most likely to do?

PART 3 — WHEN THINGS FEEL UNCERTAIN
7. If they suddenly become distant, what do you usually do?