Score Total

Is Your Relationship Thriving?

Most of the time — it feels safer to stay quiet

Several times a week — I pick my battles carefully

Occasionally — only when I'm really tired or stressed

Almost never — I usually share what's on my mind

Most evenings — we're usually on phones, laptops, or watching TV

3-4 nights a week — it's become our default mode

Rarely — we typically connect when we're together

Daily — I constantly compromise what I want

A few times a week — it's easier than dealing with upset

Almost never — I usually honor my authentic desires

Daily — it's how I decompress from relationship stress

Several times a week — I need something to take the edge off

Occasionally — only during particularly tough times

Rarely — I usually process stress more directly

Today or yesterday — I still get that spark

Multiple times a day — there's always something

A few times a week — the same issues keep coming up

Occasionally — mostly during stressful periods

Almost never — I usually appreciate them as they are

Tense, tired, or flat — we're just getting through the day

Parallel — we're in the same space but living separate lives

Comfortable but predictable — nothing exciting, nothing terrible

Alive and connecting — there's usually warmth between us

Very unsafe — it usually makes things worse or gets dismissed

Somewhat unsafe — I have to be careful about timing and delivery

Mostly safe — though sometimes it's awkward or challenging

Completely safe — my partner welcomes all of my emotions

Almost never — we barely touch except during sex (if at all)

A few times a week — usually brief moments