How Emotionally Strong is My Child?

To grow into strong leaders in life - friendship, learning and society - our young people first need a strong sense of self rooted in emotional wellbeing. Knowing themselves means they can weather any emotional storm. Check out this quiz to learn your child's emotional skill level, then check out the first phase of mental health bootcamp to will help them soar!

Section 1: Tell Me about You and Your Little Leader(s):

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What is your child's name?

What is your child's grade level?

Elementary: Grades 3-5

Middle School: Grades 6-8

High School: Grades 9-12

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Section 2: Identity Awareness

My child seems clear about who they are and what they value.

Always: 🌞 Steady sun (clear and strong sense of self)

Sometimes -🌤️ Mostly sunny (generally sure, but shifts sometimes)

Rarely - 🌥️ Cloudy (often looks to others for direction)

Never - 🌑 Dark night (still discovering who they are)

My child can describe their strengths without hesitation.

🌞 Bright spotlight (confidently names strengths)

🌤️ Partly clear (can list some strengths, but hesitates)

🌥️ Fuzzy skies (struggles to name strengths consistently)

🌑 Hidden (finds it very hard to see their strengths)

My child often compares themselves negatively to others

🌞 Strong mountain (rarely compares, stands tall)

🌤️ Gentle breeze (sometimes compares, but bounces back)presence of someone they admire.

🌥️ Rain showers (often caught up in comparison)

🌑 Stormy night (almost always feels “less than”)

My child expresses curiosity about their own personality and abilities.

🌞 Clear skies (open, curious, asks questions about self)

🌤️ Light clouds (sometimes explores, sometimes not)

🌥️ Overcast (rarely curious unless prompted)

🌑 Fog (shows little self-curiosity yet)

My child is easily influenced by peers without considering their own preferences.

🌞 Solid rock (makes their own choices)

🌤️ Steady breeze (usually stands firm, sways sometimes)

🌥️ Strong wind (often swayed by peers)

🌪️ Tornado (almost always carried by the crowd)

🌧️ Section 2 – Calmness & Regulation

My child recovers quickly from disappointment or frustration.

🌞 Sun breaks through (bounces back with ease)

🌤️ Light drizzle (recovers after a little while)

🌥️ Lingering clouds (struggles to shake off setbacks)

🌑 Heavy storm (stays down for a long time)

My child can recognize when they are feeling stressed or overwhelmed.

🌞 Clear skies (very aware of stress signals)

🌤️ Shifting skies (usually aware, sometimes misses it)

🌥️ Foggy (often misses their stress cues)

🌑 Blackout storm (rarely notices until overwhelmed)

My child has a go-to strategy for calming themselves when upset.

🌞 Steady anchor (always uses a reliable calming tool)

🌤️ Lifeboat nearby (sometimes remembers a strategy)

🌥️ Drifting raft (rarely has something that works)

🌑 Lost at sea (no strategy, swept away by feelings)

My child often reacts impulsively without thinking.

🌞 Solid ground (rarely reacts without thought)

🌤️ Gentle breeze (sometimes quick, usually regains balance)

🌥️ Gusty winds (often reacts before thinking)

🌪️ Whirlwind (almost always acts on impulse)

My child can remain focused even in noisy or distracting environments.

🌞 Steady flame (focuses regardless of distraction)

🌤️ Flickering light (usually focused, but wavers)

🌥️ Shifting shadows (often distracted, loses track)

🌑 Blown-out candle (rarely stays focused in chaos)

🌈 Section 3 – Self-Compassion & Emotional Safety

My child speaks kindly to themselves when they make mistakes.

🌞 Gentle sunshine (consistently self-kind)

🌤️ Soft glow (sometimes kind, sometimes critical)

🌥️ Clouded voice (often self-critical)

🌑 Thunder rumble (harsh inner critic dominates)

My child seems comfortable asking for help when they need it.

🌞 Open skies (asks for help with ease)

🌤️ Breezy (sometimes asks, sometimes hesitant)

🌥️ Stiff wind (rarely asks without pressure)

🌑 Silent storm (almost never asks)

My child is overly critical of themselves.

🌞 Rainbow glow (rarely critical, sees positives)

🌤️ Passing clouds (occasionally critical)

🌥️ Rainfall (frequently critical)

🌑 Hailstorm (almost always harsh on themselves)

My child shows patience toward their own learning process.

🌞 Steady growth (patient and kind with learning)

🌤️ Gradual climb (usually patient, sometimes frustrated)

🌥️ Slippery slope (often impatient)

🌑 Landslide (very impatient, harsh on themselves)

My child believes they deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

🌞 Bright sun (deeply rooted self-worth)

🌤️ Morning light (generally confident in worth)

🌥️ Cloudy horizon (often doubts worth)

🌑 Eclipse (rarely feels deserving of respect)

🌪️ Section 4 – Leadership Readiness Snapshot

My child naturally takes the lead in group activities.

🌞 Guiding star (confident leader)

🌤️ Rising sun (sometimes leads, sometimes follows)

🌥️ Fading light (rarely steps into leadership)

🌑 Hidden moon (almost never takes lead)

My child prefers to follow instructions rather than take initiative

🌞 Bright torch (thrives on initiative)

🌤️ Flickering lantern (sometimes takes initiative)

🌥️ Dim glow (usually prefers to follow)

🌑 Shadowed path (almost always avoids initiative)

My child is confident sharing their ideas with others.

🌞 Bold sunrise (shares freely and confidently)

🌤️ Partly bright (sometimes shares, sometimes holds back)

🌥️ Cloud cover (rarely shares ideas)

🌑 Silent night (keeps ideas hidden)

My child often feels unsure about how to respond to new situations.

🌞 Steady compass (adapts with confidence)

🌤️ Map in hand (sometimes needs guidance)

🌥️ Lost traveler (often uncertain in new spaces)

🌑 Spinning compass (very unsure, avoids newness)

My child notices when others are struggling and offers support.

🌞 Warm sun (always empathetic and supportive)

🌤️ Gentle breeze (sometimes notices, sometimes not)

🌥️ Passing cloud (rarely steps in)

🌑 Cold front (almost never offers support)