Relationship health quiz

"I feel a bit let down—can we talk about how to avoid this?

"I’m frustrated this slipped through again."

Critic score

Share how it affects you and look for solutions together.

Bring up similar times they’ve done this before.

"I feel worried/sad/angry when this happens."

"It’s really frustrating that this keeps happening."

"I only reacted that way because I was tired."

"I didn’t mean to hurt you—tell me more."

"I hear that—it wasn’t my intention, but I see you’re hurt."

Defend yourself because you feel attacked.

Explain your side so they see your intentions.

Pause and try to understand their point of view.

"Hmm… I’m not sure that’s the best way."

"I see your point, but I think differently."

You offer quick solutions to make it go away.

You think they’re making too big a deal out of nothing.

You listen and try to understand how they feel.

You feel irritated but keep it mostly to yourself.

You offer support and work through it together.

Stay in the conversation, even if it’s hard.

Take a short break, then come back to talk.

You’re willing to work through it after things calm down.

You hope it will just blow over if you wait long enough.

You’d rather not deal with it, but you’ll talk if pushed.

Become distant or unreachable during arguments.