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Smart? Successful? Self-aware?
But still feeling stuck, attracting the wrong people, getting ghosted… or?
Your emotional reactions might be the problem — not your intentions.
Let’s find out!.
1. You start falling for someone, but you're unsure how they feel. You…
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A
Play games to protect your ego
B
Say nothing and hope they give a sign first
C
Tell them in a rush — then feel embarrassed when they don’t match it
D
Share authentically, while holding space for their response either way
2. You text someone you like. They don’t respond for over 24 hours. You…
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A
Send a passive-aggressive follow-up or meme to get a response
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B
Assume they’ve lost interest and start mentally checking out
C
Wait, feel annoyed, then withdraw emotionally to protect yourself
D
Pause, self-regulate, and follow up or let it go without overanalyzing
3. Your date says something that offends or disagrees with you. You…
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3. Your date says something that offends or disagrees with you. You…
A
Snap back, correct them, or make a joke at their expense
B
Say nothing in the moment, but quietly hold resentment
C
Shut down and let the vibe die without explaining why
D
Acknowledge your reaction and calmly explore it with curiosity
4. After a first date you liked, they say “you’re nice… but I didn’t feel chemistry.” You…
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4. After a first date you liked, they say “you’re nice… but I didn’t feel chemistry.” You…
A
Feel angry or insulted — maybe even write them off as shallow
B
Feel crushed — you question what’s wrong with you
C
Accept it on the surface but internalize it as rejection
D
Feel disappointed but grounded — and use it as data, not a personal failure
5. You feel triggered during a romantic conversation. You…
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5. You feel triggered during a romantic conversation. You…
A
Escalate, lash out, or storm off
B
Numb yourself (scrolling, drinking, checking out)
C
Avoid saying anything but feel heavy and emotionally stuck
D
Name the emotion, breathe through it, and share calmly
6. When someone brings up a concern about how you treated them, you…
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6. When someone brings up a concern about how you treated them, you…
A
Get defensive and argue your point immediately
B
Apologize quickly to end the discomfort — even if you’re unsure why
C
Withdraw emotionally and feel misunderstood
D
Reflect, clarify, and explore their concern calmly
7. You’re asked: “What are you looking for in a partner?” You…
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7. You’re asked: “What are you looking for in a partner?” You…
A
Deflect or make a joke (“Not sure — maybe someone with a yacht”)
B
Give a vague answer because you’re afraid of scaring them off
C
Give an honest answer that’s idealistic but not emotionally grounded
D
Communicate clearly — sharing what you want and who you are
8. You get ghosted after a great first few dates. You…
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8. You get ghosted after a great first few dates. You…
A
Curse them out (privately or via text) or stalk their social media
B
Blame yourself for doing something wrong
C
Try to win them back with one last message or gesture
D
Let it go — you feel disappointed but not defined by it
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