✨ Emotional Processing Style Check After Divorce

After a divorce, some people bottle everything up, while others let it all out. Both approaches can get stuck without guidance. Take this quick check to discover your style, and learn the next step toward real healing.

Quiz Format

Answer 11 quick “gut-level” questions (multiple choice: A/B/C style).

Answers tally toward Suppression, Expression, or Balanced/Processing styles.

Each style leads to a how to calculate your score + short result description.

For more than half the week, I experience:

A) Nausea

B) Overwhelm

C) Impending doom

The inner voice I hear most often in my daily life is:

A) “This is too risky...what if everything changes?”

B) “I can’t see the full picture yet, better wait.”

C) “Who do you think you are to do this?”

My emotions show up in my body as (on most days):

A) Tension, fatigue, or headaches I don’t talk about

B) Tears, outbursts, or visible stress

C) A mix — I notice but try to care for myself

When friends ask how I’m doing, I tend to:

A) Say “I’m fine” and change the subject

B) Share the full story and feelings in detail

C) Share honestly but in a contained way

When I feel overwhelmed, I usually:

A) Keep it to myself until it passes

B) Vent to friends, journal, or cry it out

C) Pause and notice what my body feels before deciding what to do

Thinking about my ex, I often:

A) Avoid it: I distract myself with work/scrolling

B) Talk about them a lot, sometimes repeating the story

C) Reflect on what I learned and where I’m still stuck

What I have tried to fix my problem so far:

A) Talking it out or journaling

B) Waiting for a sign or clarity

C) Forcing action

The things I have tried haven't worked because...

A) I still circle around the same story

B) I can't tell if I have received a sign or no

C) I end up more confused or drained

The hardest part about making a big decision right now is:

A) I don’t want to lose what I already have

B) I don’t know what’s on the other side

C) I’m not sure I can handle what comes next

What I wish I felt instead:

A) Safe and ready to let go

B) Clear and grounded in the unknown

C) Confident and supported in my choices

My biggest challenge after divorce has been:

A) Opening up about how much I’m hurting

B) Regulating how big my feelings feel

C) Unable to let go of the past; it plays over and over in my mind