Do You Know Your Attachment Style?

Understanding your attachment style can help you build healthier relationships. This short quiz will give you insight into how you connect with others.

When you’re upset in a relationship, you tend to...

A

A. Express how you feel and work through it together

B

B. Feel anxious and fear being abandoned

C

C. Shut down and need space

D

D. Want comfort but also feel scared to get too close

How do you feel when someone expresses deep emotions toward you?

A

Open and empathetic

B

Worried they’ll expect too much from me

C

Uncomfortable and want to avoid it

D

Confused or nervous about how to respond

In relationships, you mostly...

A

Feel stable and secure

B

Need reassurance that your partner loves you

C

Prefer independence and alone time

D

Feel stuck between craving intimacy and fearing it

When your partner pulls away emotionally, you...

A

Ask calmly what’s going on

B

Feel panicked and clingy

C

Feel relieved to have some space

D

Freeze up and withdraw even though you want connection

How do you usually feel after conflict in a close relationship?

A

Willing to reconnect and repair

B

Fearful the relationship might end

C

Glad it’s over and ready to move on

D

Overwhelmed and unsure how to fix it

Count your answers and see which letter you chose most often:

Mostly A = Secure - You feel comfortable with closeness and trust others while maintaining your independence.

Mostly B = Anxious - You crave connection but often fear rejection or abandonment.

Mostly C = Avoidant - You value independence and often feel uneasy with too much closeness or vulnerability.

Mostly D = Fearful Avoidant (Disorganized) - You desire intimacy but fear getting hurt, leading to push-pull relationship dynamics.

Want to go deeper?

Now that you know your attachment style, you might be wondering how it shows up in your relationships, and what to do about it. If you’d like support understanding and shifting these patterns, I’d love to help.

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