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What’s Your Core Anxious Attachment Pattern?

I panic and try to get closer fast, text, call, check in. Anything to feel connected.

I tell myself it’s fine, even if it hurts, and start doing everything I can to please them again.

I replay every conversation, trying to figure out what I did wrong or what changed.

I shut down emotionally and feel like I’ve lost a part of myself again.

I try to fix things right away because I can’t stand the distance or uncertainty.

I swallow my feelings to avoid rocking the boat, even when I feel invisible.

I overanalyze the argument, trying to find the “right” way I could have handled it.

I disconnect and feel like I don’t even know who I am or what I need anymore.

By giving a lot: attention, reassurance, messages, gifts. I want them to feel loved constantly.

By being overly accommodating and available, even when I’m exhausted.

By thinking about every detail, what they like, what they need, how to make them happy.

By adapting myself to them completely, losing my own interests or opinions along the way.

When my partner consistently shows love and attention.

When my partner doesn’t get upset with me or pull away.

When I can predict their reactions and know what to expect.

When I finally feel like I have an identity outside the relationship.

The waiting. Not knowing where I stand or when they’ll come closer again.

Always feeling like I have to earn love through effort or caretaking.

The mental noise; constant worrying, second-guessing, and analyzing everything.

Feeling like I’ve disappeared into the relationship and can’t find myself anymore.

Feeling deeply connected and wanted, with lots of closeness.

Feeling appreciated for how much I give and care.

Feeling calm and understood, with no overthinking.

Feeling free to be myself and loved for who I really am.