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What...why am I like this?

When I set a goal, I usually…

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A

Start strong but end up undermining myself.

B

Make sure it won’t upset or inconvenience others.

C

Research, plan, tweak, but rarely launch.

D

Wait until the last possible second to even start.

E

Adjust it so it looks acceptable to everyone else.

My inner critic’s favorite line is…

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A

You’ll just mess this up anyway.”

B

“Don’t rock the boat! Keep everyone happy.”

C

“You don’t know enough yet.”

D

“You can do it later.”

E

“What will they think if you don’t blend in?”

When I feel stressed, I…

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A

Binge, ghost myself, or self-destruct in small ways.

B

Say yes to everyone and burn myself out.

C

Spin in analysis and can’t shut my brain off.

D

Avoid everything with Netflix, snacks, or scrolling.

E

Morph into whoever I think people need me to be.

In relationships, I tend to…

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A

Push people away before they can reject me.

B

Over-give and under-communicate my needs.

C

Worry constantly about what they really meant

D

Delay hard conversations until things explode.

E

Morph into Change parts of myself to keep the peace.I think people need me to be.

The phrase that describes me best is…

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A

“I ruin good things for myself.”

B

“I hate letting people down.”

C

“I can’t stop thinking about it.”

D

I’ll get to it… eventually.”

E

“I’m whoever you need me to be.”

My to-do list makes me feel…

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A

Motivated at first… until I blow it up.

B

Responsible for keeping everyone else okay

C

Overwhelmed by all the details and options.

D

Avoidant (I’ll do it when the deadline is screaming).

E

Flexible (I’ll just do what everyone else is doing.)

When I succeed, I often feel…

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A

Suspicious, like I’ll lose it soon.

B

Relieved, because no one is upset with me.

C

Anxious, what if I can’t maintain it?

D

Tired, because I barely pulled it off in time

E

Confused, did I succeed for me or for them?

My biggest “stuck” pattern is…

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A

Quitting when things get real.

B

Saying yes when I want to say no.

C

Obsessing over every decision.

D

Avoiding until it’s too late.

E

Hiding my real self to fit in.

What I secretly crave most is…

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A

Freedom to succeed without fear.

B

Permission to prioritize myself.

C

Peace of mind.

D

Consistency and momentum.

E

Authenticity (being fully me.)