Daughter Archetype

Discover your hidden daughter-parent pattern so you can consciously move away from your default reactions

Pick one parent when completing the quiz.

Which Daughter Archetype are you? Let's find out...

1. Which best describes the current dynamic with your parent?

Pick the answer that has the biggest impact or is the most frequent.

I've tried hard over the years, but they just don't make the effort, and it frustrates me.

I try to be useful, solve their problems and be an emotional support, but it goes unnoticed or is expected off me.

I’m nervous about causing offence or getting things wrong.

We talk often and enjoy each other’s company.

2. When you interact with your parent, which of these emotional states do you experience the most often?

Pick the answer that has the biggest impact or is the most frequent.

I feel really calm or relaxed during interactions.

I walk away feeling ashamed of myself or ashamed of the way they behave towards me. I feel guilty for having certain thoughts about our relationship.

I feel incredibly vulnerable around my parent. I can’t always read them or predict how they are going to behave around me. I’m hurt by what they say or choose not to say.

I become angry or feel let down by what they say and do.

3. Which best describes the way you think, feel and behave when interacting with your parent?

Pick the one where most adjectives apply to you

Distant, disrespected, hostile, annoyed or sceptical

Nervous, frightened, worried, inferior, or insignificant

Grateful, joyful, connected, calm or valued

Ashamed, guilty, threatened, rejected, ashamed or isolated

4. What do you perceive to be the biggest obstacle to improving the dynamic?

I’m tired of trying.

I don’t think I can meet their expectations, and/or they can’t meet mine.

I don’t know who I need to be to gain their love and approval.

We’re generally doing okay

5. Which best describes your dreamy ideal relationship with your parent?

I am empowered and encouraged to go after things in life knowing I am safe to explore ideas (with my parent).

I am spontaneous, playful and light-hearted around my parent. We trust each other and our bond is secure.

I wish I could spend more time with my parent.

I am safe and free to express all of my opinions without judgement. I am accepted, respected and loved unconditionally.

6. Which best describes how you want to be in your career/business once you have healed the parent wound?

I want to have the energy and head space to consistently go after my career goals. I’m measured. I’m proud of the way I show up. I am deserving of success.

I want to fully recognise and be proud of all my achievements privately and with my inner circle. I believe in myself. I’m feeling more ready to take consistent steps to realising my potential.

I want to be safe and brave to explore ideas where I can make a positive impact. The only opinion that matters to me, is my own.

I will continue as I am, prioritising my career and fulfilling my potential.

7. Which best describes how you want to be in your relationships (family, friends or romantic) once you have healed the parent wound?

I want to believe in myself and in doing so, my relationships will deepen because I will know I am worthy of love and respect.

I want to confidently improve the quality of my relationships and trust that I am enough for those that matter most to me.

I will continue to show up for the people that matter most to me.

I want to be present and intentional with people I care about. I will work actively to manage feelings of anger and ensure I react with fairness with those that matter most to me.

8. As a mum, which best describes how you want to show up?

If you're not a mum, how do you aspire to be?

I am calm, present and measured in the way I show up with my children. I handle difficult situations without getting overly emotional and I’m rarely angry. I’m proud of the ways I’m role modelling connection, boundaries and love.

I talk openly and positively (about myself) around my children sharing day to day accomplishments. I invite my children to share their ideas or opinions. I listen intentionally without criticism. My children know I am proud of them.

I proactively create a home environment that is safe, calm and soothing. This is made easier by the ways I create predictable patterns of behaviour and I’m consistent with what I say. My children are encouraged to share all the little and big things in their lives without judgement or criticism.

I’ll carry on showing up just the way I am. My kids know they are safe, loved and accepted because we communicate openly all the time.