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The Friendship Barrier Audit
Do you know what's really keeping you from close friendships?
There's a specific barrier quietly in the way — and it's different for every woman. This 2-minute quiz finds yours.
When you imagine having a close friend to call right now, what feels most out of reach?
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When you imagine having a close friend to call right now, what feels most out of reach?
A
Having the time and energy to even try
B
Knowing who I even am outside of work and motherhood
C
Finding people in my actual city and life stage
D
Having friendships that survived becoming a mom
E
Letting someone actually get close to me
What does your social life actually look like right now?
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What does your social life actually look like right now?
A
I have acquaintances everywhere and real friends nowhere
B
I have people around but I don't feel known by any of them
C
My old friends are in other cities — I never rebuilt here
D
Most of my close friendships didn't survive the baby years
E
I have people who want to be close, but I keep them at arm's length
When did you last feel like you had a real friend group?
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When did you last feel like you had a real friend group?
A
I had one but life got too full to maintain it
B
Honestly, I'm not sure I've ever felt fully myself in a friend group
C
Before I moved, changed jobs, or changed life stages
D
Before I had kids
E
I've had groups but always held back from going deep
When you think about making new friends, what's your honest first reaction?
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When you think about making new friends, what's your honest first reaction?
A
I wouldn't even know when to fit it in
B
I wouldn't know what to talk about — my whole personality is work and my kids
C
I wouldn't know where to meet people who get my life
D
I feel behind — like everyone else already has their people
E
Something in me resists it, even when I want it
Something in me resists it, even when I want it
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Something in me resists it, even when I want it
A
Having a low-maintenance friendship that doesn't require constant effort to keep alive
B
Someone who knows the real me — not just my roles
C
A local person I could actually see in real life
D
A mom friend who I actually like — not just someone convenient
E
The courage to let someone in past the surface
What does a typical Tuesday evening look like for you?
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What does a typical Tuesday evening look like for you?
A
Completely depleted — kids, dinner, collapse. Repeat.
B
Going through the motions — I'm present but I don't feel like myself
C
At home, mostly. I haven't found my people here yet.
D
Kid stuff, mom stuff. The version of me that existed before is hard to find.
E
Fine on the outside. A little empty on the inside.
If a potential friend reached out and wanted to get closer, your most honest reaction would be:
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If a potential friend reached out and wanted to get closer, your most honest reaction would be:
A
I'd want to — but I genuinely don't know when I'd make it happen
B
I'd worry she'd get close and realize I'm not that interesting outside my job
C
I'd be excited but nervous — I'm out of practice
D
I'd feel hopeful but also a little sad — this used to be easier
E
I'd feel a pull toward it and a wall go up at the same time
What's the story you tell yourself about why you're lonely?
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What's the story you tell yourself about why you're lonely?
A
I just don't have time right now. Someday when things slow down.
B
I've lost myself. I don't even know what I'd bring to a friendship.
C
I'm in the wrong place. If I had the right community, things would be different.
D
Motherhood ended my social life. I'm not sure how to get it back.
E
Something in me makes it hard to let people in. I've always been this way.
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