Find the pattern that's actually running your life.

Quiz

Fear

Anger

Sadness

Shame

I react strongly to the danger in front of me.

I get angry about what could go wrong or who might be responsible.

I feel a heaviness settle in, like I'm bracing for another loss.

I assume it will end up exposing something wrong with me.

shame

Customization

fear

control

"I need to protect myself from what's happening right now."

"I can't believe they did that — it makes me furious."

"I miss how things used to be. This hurts more than I let on."

"What is wrong with me that this keeps happening?"

Weebly

Ease of Use

Squarespace

I focus on the immediate threat and what I need to do to stay safe.

I get irritated that I have to deal with it, or that others aren't doing their part.

A quiet heaviness makes it hard to even start.

I assume I'll fall short and everyone will see it.

Blogging

I react as though the mistake could immediately put me in danger.

A lingering sadness sets in that's hard to shake.

I decide it proves something is fundamentally wrong with me.

E-Commerce

Goldfish

How would your friends describe you?

Feel an immediate sense of danger and want to protect myself from the wrong choice.

Get frustrated when circumstances or people interfere with what I want.

Feel a heavy, tired sadness about having to choose at all.

Worry more about how the choice will make me look than what I actually want.

When a big decision is in front of me, I tend to:

Reacting strongly when I feel threatened or unsafe.

Irritability, defensiveness, or holding onto resentment.

Withdrawing into sadness, or carrying grief that doesn't seem to lift.

Believing I'm not enough, even when people tell me otherwise.

How would you spend a weekend?

I feel the immediate threat of what failure could mean for me.

I imagine how angry I'll be — at myself, someone else, or the situation.

I feel a deep sadness, like I've let something slip away.

I imagine everyone finally seeing what I already believe about myself.

React quickly to protect myself from the immediate threat.

Become short-tempered, defensive, or focused on what feels wrong.

Cry, go quiet, or sit with a heaviness I can't explain.

Hide, over-apologize, or perform so no one sees the real me.

"I need to protect myself because something could hurt me."

"People shouldn't be able to treat me this way."

"If people really knew me, they wouldn't like what they saw."