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KINDRED — Emotional & Relationship Preference Profile (Pilot v3)
1 — What is one disagreement style you find difficult to handle?
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2 — What helps you respond more patiently when someone has a different approach?
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3 — Are there important long-term goals or timelines the structured answers missed?
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4 — What compromises would feel reasonable or unreasonable in future planning?
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5 — What lifestyle rhythm makes you feel most fulfilled?
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6 — What kinds of conversation or humor make you feel especially connected?
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7 — Describe an ideal relationship dynamic between two different personality styles.
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8 — Which desired partner traits are truly essential, and which are merely attractive?
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9 — Is there any important aspect of your personality or romantic preferences not captured above?
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Optional depth questions
10 — What personal strengths do people close to you tend to notice?
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11 — What might someone misunderstand about your personality at first?
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12 — What circumstances change your usual social energy or adaptability?
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13 — Which relationship values are difficult to compromise on, and why?
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14 — What does trustworthy behavior look like to you in practice?
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15 — What helps you feel emotionally secure when you are having a difficult day?
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16 — What do you most appreciate when someone responds to your vulnerability?
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17 — How do your affection and reassurance preferences change with circumstances?
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18 — Describe a constructive way you have repaired a disagreement.
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19 — What balance of independence and closeness would you prefer in a romantic partner?
1 = Independent; 7 = Close.
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20 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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21 — Which differences in a partner could you actively appreciate?
Select up to three.
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Different social energy
Different planning habits
Different hobbies or interests
Different communication style
Different level of ambition
Different sense of humor
A more expressive or reserved personality
None in particular / unsure
22 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
(Optional)
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23 — How flexible are you when someone differs from your ideal personality preferences?
1 = Essential traits; 7 = Highly flexible.
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24 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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25 — What level of social energy do you generally prefer in a romantic partner?
1 = Reserved/quiet; 7 = Outgoing/social.
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26 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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27 — What planning style would you generally prefer in a romantic partner?
1 = Highly spontaneous; 7 = Highly organized.
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28 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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29 — What level of emotional expression would you generally prefer in a romantic partner?
1 = Reserved; 7 = Expressive.
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30 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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31 — What conversations would you most enjoy with a partner?
Rank your TOP THREE.
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Personal feelings and experiences
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Everyday stories and casual chats
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Philosophical or psychological questions
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Science and technology
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Creative hypotheticals
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Movies, shows, books, and games
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Politics and current events
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Goals, ambitions, and the future
32 — How important is sharing curiosity and intellectually stimulating conversation in a romantic relationship?
1 = Not especially; 7 = Essential.
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33 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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G — Ideal partner, flexibility & complementary traits
34 — Which personality traits do you most want in a romantic partner?
Rank your TOP THREE.
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Kind and empathetic
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Playful and funny
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Calm and emotionally steady
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Curious and intelligent
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Ambitious and motivated
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Affectionate and expressive
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Confident and assertive
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Creative and imaginative
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Reliable and organized
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Adventurous and spontaneous
35 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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F — Humor, conversation & connection
36 — Which types of humor do you enjoy most?
Rank your TOP THREE.
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Witty banter and wordplay
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Playful teasing
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Silly or energetic humor
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Dry understated humor
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Absurd humor
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Observational humor
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Dark humor
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Lighthearted storytelling
37 — A partner regularly jokes in a style different from yours. Which response best describes you?
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I enjoy exploring their sense of humor
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I appreciate it even when I do not laugh
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I prefer humor we both enjoy
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I would discuss which jokes work for us
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Different humor is often frustrating for me
38 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
(Optional)
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39 — How flexible is your position about having children?
Only answer what feels accurate now.
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Nonnegotiable for me
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Strong preference but some flexibility
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Open to discussing circumstances and alternatives
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Genuinely undecided
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Not applicable / prefer not to say
40 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
(Optional)
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41 — Which approach to shared financial decisions appeals to you most?
Focus on how you would coordinate finances.
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Plan budgets and major expenses together
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Keep mostly separate finances with agreed shared costs
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One shared plan with room for independent spending
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Decide collaboratively on a case-by-case basis
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I have not developed a preference
42 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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43 — How important is career development or personal ambition to your long-term plans?
1 = Lower priority; 4 = Moderately; 7 = One of my highest priorities.
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44 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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45 — Which statement best describes your view of marriage?
This helps distinguish strong requirements from preferences.
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Marriage is an essential long-term goal
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I would like marriage but could be flexible
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I am genuinely undecided
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I prefer a lasting partnership without marriage
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I do not want to marry
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Prefer not to say
46 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
(Optional)
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47 — Which statement best describes your current wishes about raising children?
You may choose uncertainty.
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Definitely want children
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Probably want children
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Undecided
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Probably do not want children
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Definitely do not want children
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48 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
(Optional)
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49 — You and a partner strongly disagree about plans affecting both of you. What is your likely next step?
Think of an ordinary, non-safety-related disagreement.
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Look for a solution that preserves both priorities
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Offer to alternate or take turns
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Discuss why each person cares, then decide
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Accept their preference if it matters more to them
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Prefer my original plan if it is important
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I am unsure until I know the specific issue
50 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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51 — How comfortable are you calmly revisiting an unresolved issue after both people have had time to process?
1 = Very uncomfortable; 4 = Somewhat comfortable; 7 = Very comfortable.
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E — Future plans, commitment & practical life
52 — Which relationship direction would you ultimately prefer?
Choose your general ideal.
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Long-term committed partnership
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Marriage if the relationship is right
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Marriage and raising children
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A committed partnership without marriage
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Casual dating without a long-term plan
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Still exploring or unsure
53 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
(Optional)
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54 — If a disagreement becomes emotional, what approach works best for you?
Select the approach you would prefer most often.
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Discuss it immediately and calmly
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Briefly pause, then return to discuss
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Take a longer break and schedule a conversation
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Write or message first to organize thoughts
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It depends on the seriousness
55 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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56 — Your partner explains that something you did hurt them, although you did not intend it. What do you usually do first?
Choose the response that is most typical of you.
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Listen and ask what impact it had
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Explain my intentions before discussing impact
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Apologize and discuss how to improve
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Need time before I can respond constructively
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It depends on how the concern is raised
57 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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58 — How easy is it for you to acknowledge your own contribution to a conflict after reflecting on it?
1 = Usually very difficult; 4 = Sometimes; 7 = Usually quite easy.
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59 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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60 — What balance of closeness and personal space usually feels best to you?
1 = Considerable independence and alone time; 4 = Balanced; 7 = Very frequent closeness and shared time.
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61 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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62 — Which expressions of affection tend to feel most meaningful to you?
Select up to three.
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Thoughtful words
Quality time
Physical affection (nonsexual)
Practical help
Small meaningful gifts
Shared experiences
Feeling listened to and understood
Respect for my space
63 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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D — Communication, conflict & repair
64 — How much day-to-day communication do you usually prefer with a romantic partner?
1 = Occasional check-ins; 4 = Regular contact with personal space; 7 = Frequent contact throughout the day.
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65 — How often do you usually want verbal reassurance in a romantic relationship?
1 = Rarely; 4 = Sometimes; 7 = Very frequently.
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66 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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67 — When you are upset, what kind of support would you most want first?
What you WANT is different from what your partner may actually do.
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Someone to listen and validate my feelings
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Reassurance and affection
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Help solving the problem
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Quiet presence without pressure to talk
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Time alone before reconnecting
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It depends on the cause
68 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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69 — When someone you care about is distressed, what do you most naturally do first?
Choose your most typical initial behavior.
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Listen and ask what they need
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Offer comfort and reassurance
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Suggest practical solutions
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Give them space and check back
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Try to lighten the mood gently
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My response depends on their preference
70 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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71 — How important is maintaining your own independence while in a committed relationship?
1 = Prefer most major activities and decisions together; 4 = Balanced; 7 = Strong personal independence matters.
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72 — When someone you care about holds a different important belief, how do you usually respond?
This measures willingness to discuss differences, not particular beliefs.
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Enjoy discussing and understanding the difference
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Respect it unless it affects shared decisions
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Need clarity on whether our core values conflict
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Some differences would make a relationship impossible
73 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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74 — How firm are your relationship principles and personal boundaries?
1 = Usually flexible and context-dependent; 4 = Mixed; 7 = Very firm on important requirements.
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75 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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C — Emotional needs, intimacy & support
76 — How openly do you tend to express affection and positive emotions?
1 = Generally reserved; 4 = Depends on situation; 7 = Very expressive.
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77 — How comfortable are you sharing vulnerability with someone you trust?
1 = Very uncomfortable; 4 = Moderately comfortable; 7 = Very comfortable.
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78 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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B — Values & relationship principles
79 — Which relationship principles are most important to you?
Rank your TOP THREE.
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Honesty
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Loyalty
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Kindness
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Trust
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Respect for boundaries
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Fairness
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Personal growth
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Commitment
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Independence
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Compassion
80 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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81 — Which approach to honesty and privacy do you prefer in a relationship?
Select the closest statement.
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Share almost everything while respecting privacy
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Be fully honest about relevant matters but keep personal privacy
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Value openness while gradually building trust
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Prefer substantial personal privacy while remaining truthful
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It depends on the subject and agreement
82 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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83 — If a partner makes a meaningful mistake and takes responsibility, which response is closest to yours?
Do not assume any specific offense.
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I usually forgive quickly when accountability is clear
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I may forgive after consistent changed behavior
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I need time and an in-depth conversation
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The impact matters more than the apology
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It depends too much on the mistake to say
84 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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85 — How much do you enjoy exploring ideas or activities outside your usual interests?
1 = Rarely interested; 4 = Sometimes; 7 = Very interested.
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86 — When you feel overwhelmed, what is your most common initial response?
This asks about a tendency, not a diagnosis.
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Talk it through with someone
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Seek quiet time to process
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Distract myself with an activity
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Focus on practical steps or solutions
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My response varies significantly
87 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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88 — Your partner becomes enthusiastic about a hobby you do not share. What would you most likely do?
Choose your likely behavior.
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Try it enthusiastically alongside them
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Learn about it and occasionally participate
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Encourage them while keeping separate interests
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Participate if we can find a compromise
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Feel frustrated if it takes time from our shared activities
89 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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90 — Which personal qualities best describe you?
Rank your TOP THREE only.
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Curious and inquisitive
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Patient and steady
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Playful and humorous
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Organized and dependable
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Adventurous and spontaneous
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Reflective and thoughtful
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Warm and affectionate
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Independent and self-directed
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Driven and ambitious
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Creative and imaginative
91 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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A — Personality & everyday tendencies
92 — After a demanding day, what usually helps you recharge?
1 = Mostly time alone; 4 = A mixture; 7 = Mostly being with others.
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93 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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94 — At an unfamiliar social gathering, what would you most likely do?
Choose your most typical response.
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Start conversations with several new people
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Talk to a few people after settling in
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Stay mostly with people I know
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Prefer to observe or leave early
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95 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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96 — How strongly do you prefer plans and routines over spontaneity?
1 = Strongly spontaneous; 4 = Balanced; 7 = Strongly structured.
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97 — A plan you were looking forward to changes unexpectedly. How do you usually respond?
Choose what you are most likely to do first.
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Adapt quickly and enjoy the change
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Feel disappointed but adapt without much difficulty
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Ask for more information and help make a new plan
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Need some time to adjust before deciding
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Prefer to keep the original plan whenever possible
98 — Is there any important context or exception to your answer?
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K03 — Are you at least 18 years old?
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