Bond Baseline

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Humor and stories — making the experience fun and light

Questions — learning about them before revealing much about myself

Honesty — saying directly what I'm looking for and who I am

Energy — being my most engaging, charismatic self

Think about your last few first dates or first interactions. What did you lead with?

I played it safe — toned myself down to seem more broadly appealing

I emphasized achievements — leaned into credentials over personality

I was too casual — undersold myself because self-promotion feels uncomfortable

I overthought it — the profile sounds polished but stiff

A friend is helping you set up a dating profile. They say: "This doesn't really sound like you." What's most likely happening?

I wait and see if the situation creates a natural opening

I find a reason to be nearby and start a low-key conversation

I make eye contact and smile but let them come to me

I'm direct — I walk over and introduce myself if I'm interested

You're at a social event and notice someone attractive across the room. What's your most honest move?

Show up as a slightly more polished version of yourself

Show up exactly as you always are — for better or worse

Adapt to the other person's energy — you're a mirror

Hold back — people have to earn the real you

The people who know you best would say that on dates, you tend to:

They were exciting — unpredictable, challenging, or intensely attractive

They were safe — reliable, available, and clearly interested in me

They were impressive — accomplished, smart, or socially admired

They were easy — the connection felt effortless from the start

Be honest: when you think about the last 3 people you were most drawn to, what did they have in common?

Keep seeing both and let time sort it out

Lean toward the new one — chemistry matters and I trust the pull

Stay with the first — consistency and investment mean something

Step back from both to think clearly about what I actually want

You're seeing someone new. Things are going well but not electric. A more exciting prospect appears. What do you actually do?

Feeling genuinely curious about how they think

Feeling physically attracted and wanting to be near them

Feeling respected and valued by how they treat me

Feeling like they challenge me or make me grow

What's more likely to keep you interested past a third date?

I stayed longer than I should have because leaving felt harsh

I left too soon because something didn't feel right and I didn't give it time

It was mutual — we both sensed it wasn't quite there

I'm not sure what happened — it just dissolved without a clear decision

Think about a connection that ended or faded. Which is more likely to be true?

Trust the feeling — something is off means something is off

Gather more data — keep dating and watch for what surfaces

Ask directly — name the feeling and see how they respond

Override it — I tend to be too cautious and this might be anxiety, not signal

You've been on three dates with someone. They're saying all the right things but something feels slightly off. You can't name it. What do you do?

With confidence — I can usually tell where someone stands

With uncertainty — I find it hard to tell unless they're very obvious

By analyzing specifics — I point to what they did or didn't do as evidence

By how I felt — if I felt wanted, they were interested; if not, they weren't