The Same Page Assessment

How Intentionally Are You Doing Your Part to Build Life Together?

Building a life together takes two, but intentionality starts with how you show up.

This assessment gives you an honest look at how you're contributing to the direction, partnership, and rhythms that help you and your partner build life on one team.

You'll reflect on five areas:

1) Shared Direction

2) Spiritual Alignment

3) Communication & Decisions

4) Roles & Partnership

5) Execution & Rhythm

Before You Begin

Answer each statement based on how you're currently showing up; not how you hope to show up or what you wish your partner would do differently. You don't need your partner to take the assessment with you.

At the end, you'll receive your score and see where you're already showing up intentionally, and where you have an opportunity to become even more intentional.

Be honest. Don't overthink it. Go with your first instinct.

1 = Strongly Disagree · 2 = Disagree · 3 = Neither Agree nor Disagree · 4 = Agree · 5 = Strongly Agree

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Note: Being on the same page doesn’t mean having the same goals or knowing exactly what the future will look like. It means understanding what matters to each other and intentionally doing your part to build a shared life together, even as your individual goals and circumstances change.

Shared Direction

Q1. I regularly make space to understand the kind of life my partner and I want to build together; not just what I personally want.

Q2. I make an intentional effort to understand what matters most to my partner and our family in this season.

Q3. I can clearly explain what my partner wants, needs, and is working toward right now; not just what I assume they want.

Spiritual Alignment

Q4. I intentionally invite God into the decisions, goals, and plans my partner and I are navigating.

Q5. I take responsibility for contributing to spiritual rhythms that help us seek and grow with God together.

Q6. I allow my faith to influence how I show up in our finances, family, work, marriage, and future decisions; not just my personal spiritual life.

Communication and Decisions

Q7. I am willing to initiate and stay engaged in important or uncomfortable conversations instead of avoiding, shutting down, or letting them become unproductive.

Q8. When we make meaningful decisions, I intentionally make room for my partner's perspective, needs, and concerns; not just my own.

Q9. I make an effort to understand the beliefs, experiences, or fears influencing my partner's perspective before assuming they're simply wrong or difficult.

Roles and Partnership

Q10. I clearly understand what I'm responsible for in this season and consistently take ownership of my part.

Q11. I consider how my goals, commitments, and decisions affect my partner instead of operating as if they only affect me.

Q12. I pay attention to what my partner is carrying and am willing to adjust, support, or have a conversation when something feels unsustainable.

Execution and Rhythm

Q13. I intentionally make time to talk with my partner about our marriage, finances, goals, responsibilities, and upcoming decisions.

Q14. When my partner and I agree on something important, I help turn that intention into a clear next step and follow through on what I committed to do.

Q15. When life gets busy or plans change, I make an effort to reconnect, communicate, and recalibrate with my partner instead of simply operating on my own.