25 Quiz Questions

PART A — Childhood (Q1–8)

1. Growing up, when you were upset, what usually happened?

A

A parent came quickly and comforted me

B

I was told to stop crying or toughen up

C

My parent was sometimes there, sometimes not — I never knew what to expect

D

The person who upset me was also the one I needed comfort from

2. As a child, how did you feel about your parents leaving?

A

I missed them but trusted they'd come back

B

I didn't really care / felt relieved

C

I was extremely anxious and worried they wouldn't return

D

I felt terrified but tried to hide it

3. When you achieved something as a child, how did your caregivers respond?

A

They celebrated with me consistently

B

They rarely acknowledged it or raised the bar immediately

C

It depended on their mood — sometimes yes, sometimes ignored

D

It was unpredictable — sometimes praised, sometimes punished

4. Were you ever made to feel responsible for a parent's emotions?

A

No, they handled their own feelings

B

Rarely

C

Yes — I often felt I had to keep them happy

D

Yes, and it was frightening

5. How was conflict handled in your home?

A

Calmly, with resolution

B

It was avoided or suppressed

C

Loudly and emotionally

D

It was scary or unpredictable

6. Were you given space to have your own opinions and feelings?

A

Yes, my feelings were validated

B

Not really — emotions weren't discussed

C

Only if they aligned with what my parent wanted

D

It wasn't safe to have opinions

7. Which sentence feels most true about your childhood?

A

I felt loved and safe most of the time

B

I learned early I was better off relying only on myself

C

I always felt like I had to earn love

D

Love and fear were often mixed together

8. Did you ever feel invisible or overlooked as a child?

A

Rarely

B

Yes — my needs just weren't really seen

C

Yes — I had to act out to be noticed

D

Yes — and I wasn't sure if I was safe

PART B — Relationship Patterns (Q9–18)

9. When someone you love doesn't reply for a while, you:

A

Feel fine — they're probably busy

B

Don't notice much / feel relieved to have space

C

Start to spiral — did I do something wrong?

D

Feel a mix of panic and numbness

10. When a partner pulls away emotionally, you tend to:

A

Give them space and check in when it feels right

B

Also pull away and feel oddly relieved

C

Pursue harder — text more, ask what's wrong, try to fix it

D

Panic and freeze at the same time

11. How easy is it to ask for what you need in a relationship?

A

Pretty easy — I know my needs matter

B

Very hard — I don't want to be a burden

C

Hard — I hint and hope they figure it out

D

I don't fully know what my needs are

12. How do you feel when a relationship gets very close and intimate?

A

Good — that's what I want

B

Uncomfortable — I feel the urge to create distance

C

Amazing but terrifying — I wait for them to leave

D

Both craving it and terrified of it at once

13. Have you ever stayed in a wrong relationship because being alone felt unbearable?

A

No

B

No — I'd rather be alone than feel trapped

C

Yes, absolutely

D

Yes, even though the relationship hurt me

14. When a partner criticizes you, your immediate reaction is:

A

I consider if they have a point and respond thoughtfully

B

Shut down, go cold, or withdraw

C

Immediate shame spiral — I must be unlovable

D

A flashback feeling of childhood shame

15. How do you handle your own anger in relationships?

A

I express it clearly without attacking

B

I suppress it completely

C

It builds up and then explodes

D

I either explode or completely shut down

16. Do you find yourself attracted to emotionally unavailable people?

A

Not particularly

B

Sometimes — I like the space they give

C

Yes — I find myself constantly chasing them

D

Yes, and I don't know why I keep choosing them

17. When you imagine a truly secure, stable relationship, how does it feel?

A

That's exactly what I want

B

Nice but a bit boring

C

Amazing but impossible — like it wouldn't last

D

Like it would eventually be taken away-

18. After a fight with someone close, you usually:

A

Repair the connection relatively quickly

B

Need a long time alone and feel distant for days

C

Need constant reassurance that you're okay

D

Alternate between wanting to repair and wanting to flee

PART C — Your Core Wound (Q19–25)

19. Which fear feels most like yours?

A

Being abandoned or left behind

B

Not being good enough / being rejected

C

Being controlled or losing my independence

D

Being betrayed by someone I trust

20. Which pattern do you most recognize in yourself?

A

I give too much to avoid being left

B

I shrink myself to avoid rejection

C

I push people away before they can trap me

D

I wait for people to show their true colours

21. Which do you believe deep down, even if you wish you didn't?

A

People always leave eventually

B

I am fundamentally not enough

C

If someone gets too close, I'll lose myself

D

Everyone will eventually hurt me

22. What do you most crave but also find terrifying?

A

A permanent, unbreakable bond

B

Being fully seen and accepted

C

Being close without losing my identity

D

Trusting someone completely

23. Which situation would cause you the MOST distress?

A

Your partner says they need space and time apart

B

Your partner says they're disappointed in you

C

Your partner wants to spend every single day together

D

You discover your partner kept a secret from you

24. When you feel emotionally triggered, what do you tend to do?

A

Cling, cry, or desperately seek connection

B

Go quiet, shut down, and handle it alone

C

Rage, then shut down, then feel shame

D

Become hypervigilant and look for evidence of threat

25. Which childhood message do you carry most?

A

"Don't leave me"

B

"I'm not worth loving as I am"

C

"I have to protect my freedom"

D

"I can't trust anyone"