Finding Joy in Midlife

A short anonymous survey to collect real data, dispel myths, and create discussion. We promise, this survey doesn't know who you are, and frankly, we don't care.

How old are you?

Under 30

What's your gender?

Female

On a scale of 0 to 5 where 0 is completely dissatisfied and 5 is fully satisfied, rate your current relationship to fun. [We are defining fun as actively engaging in something that brings you joy and/or relaxation, rather than just working or handling responsibilities].

The "Fun" Audit

0 (Ex. My midlife self doesn’t know what fun is anymore)

1 (Ex. I laughed at a meme recently)

2 (Ex. I had a fun dinner with friends, but I was thinking about laundry)

3 (Ex. I forgot about my responsibilities for a bit this week)

4 (Ex. I've found a way to meet my weekly fun quota)

5 (Ex. I’m currently calling in sick from a beach)

What is the #1 thing standing between you and a good time right now?

The Joy Blockers

Time and the "Mental Load"

Physical exhaustion

I’m too tired/self-conscious to try new things

I’ve forgotten what I enjoy doing

When was the last time you laughed until you almost (or actually) peed?

Relatable Reality

This morning

Sometime in the last month

I can’t remember, but my pelvic floor is ready for the challenge

The Secret Hobby

What is something you find "joy" in that others may not relate to? (Examples: Rewatching 90 Day Fiancé, wandering Target alone for 2 hours, sitting in a coffee shop scrolling on TikTok, organizing the spice drawer, competitive bird watching).

If we looked at your bank statement from the last month, what would be the "evidence" of you actually having a good time? Select all that apply or enter your own.

The "Joy" Receipt

The "Luxury" Joy: Ex. A fancy meal, a spa day, or a solo hotel night, etc…

The "Low-Stakes" Joy: Ex. A long walk, a library haul, a nap, etc…

The "Nostalgic" Joy: Ex. Dusting off an old hobby (tennis, painting, 90s dance parties), etc…

The "Social" Joy: Belly laughs with friends or a date night where we didn't talk about the kids, etc…

Do you feel like everyone else is having more fun than you?

The Comparison Trap

Yes, and I hate-scroll because of it.

No, I know their "joy" is a curated lie.

I’m too busy to even think about their "joy."

(Optional) Leave your comments or other topics you're interested in knowing more about!

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