The Autopilot Audit 

Quiz

You knock it all out yourself before you let yourself sit down — asking for help feels like more work than just doing it.

You open your laptop to "start"... forty minutes later you've scrolled three apps and touched nothing on the list.

You send one more text to make sure they really understood your point from that thing yesterday.

You get a text that a friend's going through something, and you spend the next hour texting back and forth about HER problem — genuinely easier than facing your own list.

You'll just handle both. Asking someone else to take it feels harder than doing it yourself.

You say "sure, one sec" and continue to multi-task in your head while you deal with it.

C. I feel the tension rise and it comes out short or sharp.

Instead of asking for help yourself, you help but both have a vent session of everyone that is stressing you out — you both leave a little heavier.

Keep moving — dishes, prepping for tomorrow. Sitting still feels wrong.

Numb out. Wine, TV, doom-scroll. Don't want to talk about it. 

You replay the day out loud to whoever's around... every detail of where you were slighted, talked over, or treated unfairly. You need them to agree you were right to be upset.

You spend the evening venting about a coworker or a family member. The actual thing eating at you never comes up.

"I'm fine, I've got this" — said a little too fast, a little too firm.

You laugh it off, change the subject, make a mental note to seem more "on" next time.

It irritates you. Make defensive excuses, insist you're fine, maybe a little sharp about it.   Ten minutes later you're still replaying it, refining what you should have said instead.

You deflect onto someone else entirely-  "Honestly it's [the floor/ healthcare /family member],  if they'd just get it together, I'd be fine."

You say "I've got it," even though you don't, because handing it off feels riskier than just doing it.

 You don't accept - drowning feels more comfortable than delegating.

You say yes, and then get frustrated when it's not done your way. 

You say yes, then spend the whole time focusing your energy managing someone else's crisis instead of naming what's actually stressing you.

mental list of tomorrow — what's still not done, what you're not sure got done right.

Nothing much. You're scrolling, not really thinking about the day at all.

You're replaying conversations... partly still building your case, partly sitting in guilt over how it came out. You didn't want it to turn into conflict. You just needed them to understand.

You're worried about someone else — a coworker, your kid, a friend — instead of thinking about your own day.

Impossible. Too much to manage for me to stop.

You avoid it, honestly. Real stillness means whatever you've been outrunning finally catches up, so you stay busy or numbed out instead — anything but actually sitting in the quiet.

Hard to access because I'm often tense, competitive or reactive even at "rest."

Rare, because you're usually the one making sure everyone ELSE gets to rest first.

Tight jaw, clenched shoulders, tension headaches. Braced for something even when nothing's happening..

Heavy, foggy, disconnected. Moving through the day half-checked-out from my own body.

 Wired and tense. Racing heart, shallow breath, quick to flush or feel hot under pressure.. 

Knots in my stomach, tension I can't place. Physically fine on paper, but something feels off.

There's no time to rest. More coffee, keep moving.

I don't even notice it anymore. I've been tired so long I don't remember what "not tired" feels like.

It makes me short and snappy... at work, at home, with the people I love most. Making small things matter way more than they should. 

You blame it on your circumstances — the job, the kids, the season of life — and leave it there.

Finish

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