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Relationship Health Assessment

An in-depth review of your relationship’s strengths, stress points, and direction.

Before You Begin
This assessment is designed to provide a structured and honest overview of your relationship’s current health. It examines core foundations such as trust, commitment, emotional safety, conflict patterns, connection, and recent direction.

It is intended to help you identify areas of strength and areas requiring attention. This assessment is not therapy and does not replace working with a licensed professional. It does not provide a diagnosis, legal advice, or crisis intervention.

You may complete this individually. If both partners complete it separately, results may be compared for additional insight.
This is an educational tool designed to support understanding and reflection. It is not a clinical assessment, psychological diagnosis, or substitute for psychotherapy, counselling, legal advice, or crisis intervention.

What to Expect
• Approximately 20–30 minutes to complete
• A detailed but manageable report including:
- An overall health summary
- Top relationship strengths
- Key areas requiring attention
- Clear next-step direction

Answer based on your lived experience rather than how you hope things are or how they appear externally. There are no right or wrong answers.

Important Safety Notice
Some questions address serious behaviors related to harm or coercion. These items are included to ensure that safety concerns are not overlooked.

If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services in your area.

If responses indicate behaviors involving physical harm, threats, or coercive control, the report will recommend addressing safety before focusing on relationship growth.



By continuing, you acknowledge that this assessment is for informational purposes only and does not establish a therapeutic relati1onship.

1. I feel accepted by my partner, even when we disagree.

1. I feel accepted by my partner, even when we disagree.
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2. My feelings are dismissed or minimized during conflict.

2. My feelings are dismissed or minimized during conflict.
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3. My partner shows appreciation for who I am.

3. My partner shows appreciation for who I am.
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4. I feel safe expressing vulnerable thoughts or emotions.

4. I feel safe expressing vulnerable thoughts or emotions.
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5. Personal insecurities are used against me.

5. Personal insecurities are used against me.
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6. When I am upset, my partner responds with understanding.

6. When I am upset, my partner responds with understanding.
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7. I feel judged or criticized for who I am as a person.

7. I feel judged or criticized for who I am as a person.
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8. I can share difficult emotions without fear of being shamed.

8. I can share difficult emotions without fear of being shamed.
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9. My partner is transparent about their actions and interactions with others.

9. My partner is transparent about their actions and interactions with others.
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10. Important information is withheld from me.

10. Important information is withheld from me.
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11. I feel confident that my partner tells me the truth, even when it is uncomfortable.

11. I feel confident that my partner tells me the truth, even when it is uncomfortable.
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12. My partner follows through on commitments they make.

12. My partner follows through on commitments they make.
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13. I am frequently let down when my partner says they will do something.

13. I am frequently let down when my partner says they will do something.
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14. I can depend on my partner to handle shared responsibilities.

14. I can depend on my partner to handle shared responsibilities.
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15. When I share something personal, my partner handles it with care.

15. When I share something personal, my partner handles it with care.
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16. My vulnerabilities are brought up later in a hurtful way.

16. My vulnerabilities are brought up later in a hurtful way.
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17. I trust my partner to protect my emotional well-being.

17. I trust my partner to protect my emotional well-being.
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18. My partner maintains appropriate boundaries with others.

18. My partner maintains appropriate boundaries with others.
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19. I worry about my partner’s faithfulness.

19. I worry about my partner’s faithfulness.
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20. I feel secure in my partner’s loyalty to this relationship.

20. I feel secure in my partner’s loyalty to this relationship.
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21. I adjust my own preferences for the good of our relationship.

21. I adjust my own preferences for the good of our relationship.
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22. I am willing to make personal sacrifices to strengthen this relationship.

22. I am willing to make personal sacrifices to strengthen this relationship.
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23. I prioritize my partner’s well-being when making important decisions.

23. I prioritize my partner’s well-being when making important decisions.
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24. When we argue, I stay engaged instead of shutting down.

24. When we argue, I stay engaged instead of shutting down.
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25. When my partner is struggling, I make an effort to be present and supportive.

25. When my partner is struggling, I make an effort to be present and supportive.
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26. I emotionally distance myself when things feel difficult.

26. I emotionally distance myself when things feel difficult.
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27. Statements about ending the relationship occur during conflict.

27. Statements about ending the relationship occur during conflict.
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28. I experience ongoing doubts about remaining in this relationship.

28. I experience ongoing doubts about remaining in this relationship.
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29. Even during conflict, I remain committed to working through issues.

29. Even during conflict, I remain committed to working through issues.
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30. We make plans that assume we will be together long-term.

30. We make plans that assume we will be together long-term.
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31. I can clearly envision a future with my partner.

31. I can clearly envision a future with my partner.
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32. I speak respectfully about my partner when they are not present.

32. I speak respectfully about my partner when they are not present.
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33. I protect the boundaries of our relationship in outside interactions.

33. I protect the boundaries of our relationship in outside interactions.
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34. We approach problems as a team rather than as opponents.

34. We approach problems as a team rather than as opponents.
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35. I assume my partner’s intentions are good.

35. I assume my partner’s intentions are good.
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36. I try to understand my partner’s perspective before reacting.

36. I try to understand my partner’s perspective before reacting.
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37. Negative assumptions about my partner’s motives occur.

37. Negative assumptions about my partner’s motives occur.
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38. In everyday life, I feel that my partner has my back.

38. In everyday life, I feel that my partner has my back.
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39. I keep a mental record of past hurts.

39. I keep a mental record of past hurts.
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40. I feel alone rather than supported by my partner.

40. I feel alone rather than supported by my partner.
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41. I take responsibility for my part when problems arise.

41. I take responsibility for my part when problems arise.
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42. I am open to changing behaviors that hurt my partner.

42. I am open to changing behaviors that hurt my partner.
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43. When we argue, I struggle to admit when I am wrong.

43. When we argue, I struggle to admit when I am wrong.
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44. I make active efforts to improve this relationship.

44. I make active efforts to improve this relationship.
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45. I wait for my partner to change before making changes myself.

45. I wait for my partner to change before making changes myself.
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46. When something is not working between us, I am willing to address it directly.

46. When something is not working between us, I am willing to address it directly.
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47. During conflict, criticisms focus on my partner’s character rather than specific behaviors.

47. During conflict, criticisms focus on my partner’s character rather than specific behaviors.
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48. I use phrases like “you always” or “you never” during arguments.

48. I use phrases like “you always” or “you never” during arguments.
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49. Concerns are expressed in ways that feel like personal attacks.

49. Concerns are expressed in ways that feel like personal attacks.
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50. I raise issues by describing specific behaviors rather than attacking who my partner is.

50. I raise issues by describing specific behaviors rather than attacking who my partner is.
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51. Sarcasm or mocking occurs in our interactions.

51. Sarcasm or mocking occurs in our interactions.
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52. I feel disrespected during disagreements.

52. I feel disrespected during disagreements.
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53. Eye-rolling, scoffing, or dismissive gestures occur.

53. Eye-rolling, scoffing, or dismissive gestures occur.
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54. I speak about my partner with admiration and respect.

54. I speak about my partner with admiration and respect.
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55. When concerns are raised, I focus on defending myself.

55. When concerns are raised, I focus on defending myself.
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56. I respond to criticism by pointing out my partner’s faults.

56. I respond to criticism by pointing out my partner’s faults.
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57. It is difficult for us to take responsibility during conflict.

57. It is difficult for us to take responsibility during conflict.
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58. I am able to listen without immediately justifying myself.

58. I am able to listen without immediately justifying myself.
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59. One or both of us stop talking or walk away during conflict.

59. One or both of us stop talking or walk away during conflict.
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60. Conversations end without resolution because someone leaves or avoids the discussion.

60. Conversations end without resolution because someone leaves or avoids the discussion.
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61. I emotionally distance myself when discussions become intense.

61. I emotionally distance myself when discussions become intense.
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62. Even during difficult conversations, we remain engaged.

62. Even during difficult conversations, we remain engaged.
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63. My partner is available when I need them.

63. My partner is available when I need them.
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64. I feel alone even when we are in the same room.

64. I feel alone even when we are in the same room.
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65. When I try to connect, my partner responds.

65. When I try to connect, my partner responds.
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66. When I am distressed, I can turn to my partner for comfort.

66. When I am distressed, I can turn to my partner for comfort.
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67. My partner tries to understand me when I share something important.

67. My partner tries to understand me when I share something important.
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68. When I am upset, I feel ignored.

68. When I am upset, I feel ignored.
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69. My partner supports my independence and personal growth.

69. My partner supports my independence and personal growth.
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70. I feel encouraged to pursue my goals.

70. I feel encouraged to pursue my goals.
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71. I feel unsupported in pursuing my interests.

71. I feel unsupported in pursuing my interests.
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72. We regularly share meaningful conversations.

72. We regularly share meaningful conversations.
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73. We spend time connecting, not just managing responsibilities.

73. We spend time connecting, not just managing responsibilities.
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74. Our relationship feels distant.

74. Our relationship feels distant.
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75. Affection and physical closeness occur regularly.

75. Affection and physical closeness occur regularly.
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76. Physical intimacy feels disconnected or strained.

76. Physical intimacy feels disconnected or strained.
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77. We are open and transparent about financial decisions.

77. We are open and transparent about financial decisions.
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78. We have a financial plan that works for both of us.

78. We have a financial plan that works for both of us.
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79. Financial disagreements create ongoing tension between us

79. Financial disagreements create ongoing tension between us
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80. Major financial decisions are made together.

80. Major financial decisions are made together.
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81. Responsibilities in our home feel fairly divided.

81. Responsibilities in our home feel fairly divided.
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82. I feel overwhelmed by shared responsibilities.

82. I feel overwhelmed by shared responsibilities.
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83. We discuss and adjust responsibilities when needed.

83. We discuss and adjust responsibilities when needed.
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84. I feel that my partner respects my point of view in dealing with family or outside relationships.

84. I feel that my partner respects my point of view in dealing with family or outside relationships.
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85. Outside relationships create tension between us.

85. Outside relationships create tension between us.
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86. We are able to make joint decisions about how we handle family or outside influences.

86. We are able to make joint decisions about how we handle family or outside influences.
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87. I feel undermined by my partner in interactions involving family or others.

87. I feel undermined by my partner in interactions involving family or others.
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88. We make important life decisions together.

88. We make important life decisions together.
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89. I feel excluded from major decisions.

89. I feel excluded from major decisions.
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90. Our lives feel separate rather than shared.

90. Our lives feel separate rather than shared.
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