The Dream Diagnosis: A structural assessment of identity leakage

Which pattern of self-betrayal are you living? 30 questions. Brutal honesty required. Answer what you're ACTUALLY doing, not what you wish you were doing.

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1. When someone asks for your help, you:

A

Say yes immediately, even if you don't have time

B

Consider if you have capacity before answering

C

Only help if it's mutual or paid

D

Rarely get asked because you've set clear boundaries

2. In the last 90 days, you've given away for free:

A

Strategy, time, or labor worth $1000+

B

Some advice here and there

C

Nothing significant

D

You only give what's already paid for

3. When you think about charging for your gifts, you feel:

A

Guilty, greedy, or uncomfortable

B

Slightly nervous but willing

C

Confident and clear

D

You already charge without hesitation

4. When you look at your business/creative history, you see:

A

Multiple "starts" that feel like failures

B

Some pivots but mostly forward movement

C

A clear linear path

D

Consistent growth in one direction

5. You've "rebranded" or significantly pivoted:

A

3+ times in the last 2 years

B

Once or twice in the last few years

C

Rarely do you stay committed to one thing

D

Never; you've been the same since the beginning

6. When you return to a theme or idea you've worked with before, you feel:

A

Like you're failing or going backward

B

Slightly frustrated but accepting

C

Neutral about it

D

Excited to deepen into it

7. Right now, you're defending:

A

A relationship, job, or identity you've outgrown

B

Something you're questioning but not ready to leave

C

Nothing, you let go easily

D

Only what's truly sacred to you

8. When you think about walking away from something you've invested in, you feel:

A

Like a failure, like you're giving up

B

Conflicted but considering it

C

At peace with letting go

D

You've already walked away from what wasn't yours

9. You spend energy explaining or justifying your choices to:

A

Multiple people regularly

B

A few people sometimes

C

Rarely anyone

D

No one, your choices are yours

10. When someone recognizes your power or capacity, you:

A

Deflect, joke, or shrink

B

Feel uncomfortable but say thank you

C

Receive it neutrally

D

Own it fully

11. In the last month, you've made yourself smaller:

A

Multiple times to avoid being "too much"

B

A few times when feeling insecure

C

Rarely

D

Never, you take up your full space

12. When an opportunity arises that matches your actual capacity, you:

A

Immediately think, "I'm not ready" or "Who am I to do this?"

B

Feel nervous but consider it

C

Evaluate it practically

D

Say yes if it's aligned

13. You know what you want your life to look like, but:

A

You apologize for wanting it or don't let yourself have it

B

You're slowly working toward it

C

You're actively building it

D

You're already living it

14. When you imagine your ideal life (location, place, work, relationships), you feel:

A

Guilty for wanting it or like it's selfish

B

Hopeful but uncertain

C

Clear and committed

D

Grateful because you're already there

15. Your current life compared to what you actually want:

A

Completely different, and you're not moving toward it

B

Different, but you're making small moves

C

Mostly aligned with some gaps

D

Fully aligned

16. Right now, something in your life is:

A

Crumbling/burning and you're trying to save it

B

Shifting and you're trying to control it

C

Stable

D

Already burned, and you've walked through

17. When you think about "everything falling apart," you feel:

A

Terrified, like you're failing

B

Anxious but trying to trust

C

Accepting that it's part of growth

D

At peace because you know destruction precedes initiation

18. You're currently:

A

Fighting a collapse

B

Surrendering to a transition

C

In a stable period

D

On the other side of a major transformation

19. When someone offers to help or care for you without wanting anything back, you:

A

Feel suspicious, uncomfortable, or like you owe them

B

Receive it but feel slightly guilty

C

Accept it with some ease

D

Receive it fully without owing

20. Touch, intimacy, or care from others feels:

A

Like it always comes with conditions or cost

B

Sometimes safe, sometimes not

C

Mostly safe

D

Safe and nourishing

10 final questions, then your diagnosis

21. Your ability to receive (help, care, gifts, love) without giving back immediately:

A

Nearly impossible, receiving feels like debt

B

Difficult but you're working on it

C

Getting easier

D

Natural and comfortable

22. When you try to follow someone else's "proven system," you:

A

Can't make yourself do it, feel resistance

B

Try but it never quite fits

C

Can adapt it to work for you

D

Don't use other people's systems; you build your own

23. You've invested in programs/coaches/certifications and:

A

Still can't make their method work for you

B

Took pieces but not the whole thing

C

Integrated what resonated

D

Built your own method instead

24. When you think about "doing it the right way" (someone else's way), you feel:

A

Like you're failing because you can't follow it

B

Frustrated but still trying

C

Free to do it your way

D

You've never tried to do it someone else's way

25. Your online presence (social media, website, brand) compared to your actual life:

A

Completely different, you're performing someone you're not

B

Somewhat aligned but aspirational

C

Mostly aligned with minor differences

D

Fully aligned, you're the same everywhere

26. When you post about your work/life, you:

A

Heavily edit to show a "better" version

B

Share authentically but curate slightly

C

Share pretty much as it is

D

Only share what's actually true

27. The woman you show the world and the woman you are in private:

A

Are completely different people

B

Have some differences

C

Are mostly the same

D

Are the exact same person

29. You edit your voice, tone, or message to make it:

A

More palatable/professional/acceptable for others

B

Slightly softer sometimes

C

Rarely, mostly speak your truth

D

Never, you speak your full truth always

29. When you think about speaking your truth at full volume (without apology or translation), you:

A

Feel terrified people will leave or judge you

B

Feel nervous but willing to try

C

Feel mostly comfortable

D

Already do this consistently

30. Your current way of showing up in the world:

A

Is a translated version of who you actually are

B

Is mostly you with some editing

C

Is pretty much all of you

D

Is fully, unapologetically you

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