Find Your True SELF: The Quiz That Reveals What's Really Behind Your Struggles — and How to Finally Heal

You’ve done the work - therapy, books, journaling, talking about it...

but deep down, something still feels off.

You feel stuck in patterns you can’t seem to shift. You desperately want change, but it always seems out of reach.

This isn’t a personality flaw.

It’s survival wisdom.

You learned how to cope, connect, and stay safe in ways that made sense at the time — but now those same patterns might be keeping you disconnected from your needs, your emotions, and your true, authentic self.

In this 10-minute quiz, you’ll discover which of the 4 core Inner Survival Personas is leading your life right now.

Answer each question as best as you can. There are no wrong answers. If you feel like you relate to more than one, pick the one that you find yourself doing more often than others.

At the end, you’ll get your unique results, a breakdown of what it means, and how my S.E.L.F. Model can guide you back to wholeness — at your own pace, without shame or judgement.

True healing is just around the corner. You are not alone. Love, Kensie

What's your first name?

What's your email?

You’re having a rough day emotionally, but nothing 'big' or obvious is wrong. What do you do?

A

Try figure out what's triggering me so I know why I'm so emotional.

B

Push through it and hope it'll eventually pass.

C

Meditate, journal, or use another coping skill to try and regulate myself.

D

I try to shake it off because I don’t want to bring anyone down.

You've had a long week, and you're exhausted. But you promised to meet your friend for dinner tonight. What do you do?

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A

I logically weigh the pros and cons, but then spend the whole night analyzing whether I made the right choice.

B

I go. Obviously. I don’t even consider canceling—that would make me feel like a failure or weak.

C

Even though I’m drained, I’ll put on a happy face and go. I don't want to let my friend down.

D

I’m so tired, but I try to focus on the positive: that I have a friend who wants to see me. If I shift my mindset enough, I’ll manifest the energy I need, right?

When someone asks how you’re doing, you usually:

A

I won't hide if I'm not doing well, but I'll make sure to end with a positive. I don't want to fuel negative energy.

B

Give a thoughtful answer about what I’ve been thinking or doing about lately. I probably over explain a little.

C

Say "I'm good. How are you?" Even if I'm not ok, I don’t want to burden them.

D

Something vague and short like “Fine,” “Busy,” “Hanging in.”

You feel overwhelmed, and your to-do list is a mile long. What’s your inner monologue?

A

Did I not get enough rest? Did I take on too much? I need to to figure out how to avoid this next time.

B

Maybe I should sign up for yoga or something so I can stop feeling so stressed all the time.

C

Suck it up. No excuses. You don’t have time to fall apart.

D

I'm drowning. Why has no one offered to help me yet?

You're home alone with no plans. How do you feel?

A

Fine — I’ll probably end up reading or researching something.

B

Lonely, but I wouldn’t want to bother anyone.

C

Relieved, at first. But then guilty for not being productive.

D

Restless — I feel like I should be doing something more meaningful.

Which of these statements feels most familiar?

A

I give a lot, but people don’t really see or support me.

B

I’ve done so much inner work, but I still feel lost sometimes.

C

I don’t let myself slow down — I have to stay on top of everything.

D

I can explain why I am the way that I am, but I don’t know how to actually change.

You start to cry around someone you trust. What’s your first reaction?

A

You feel uncomfortable and try to explain why.

B

Start grounding yourself so that you can regulate again.

C

Get embarrassed and try to stop right away.

D

Apologize for being a "negative nancy".

What’s your experience with asking for help or advice?

A

I ask a lot of people — therapists, coaches, friends, podcasts. I want to make sure I’m doing the right thing.

B

I’ll ask for advice after I’ve done a ton of research or thinking. Even then, I don’t always take it.

C

I worry I’m being too much or bothering people. And when I do ask, I say "It's ok if you can't help."

D

I hate asking for help. I’d rather figure it out on my own. I don’t want to owe anyone or be let down.

What do you wish people understood about you?

A

That I need space to process without being rushed or told to ‘just be grateful.’

B

I wish they noticed the way I show up for everyone else, and would do the same for me.

C

That I’m not just overthinking for fun — my brain won’t stop. I’m trying to feel safe.

D

That I’m not as strong as I look. That just because I get things done doesn’t mean I’m okay.

When do you feel the most like yourself?

A

When I am learning and able to make sense of things.

B

When I am needed, helpful, or emotionally available to others.

C

When I am independent, busy, and self-sufficient.

D

When I am constantly growing, evolving, and able to stay calm.