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Interview Questions for Lived Experiences of Miscarriage

Hello,

I'm working on a book called Miscarried: Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Miscarriage. It's a real, raw, and funny (yes, funny) look at miscarriage — through personal stories, cultural and medical critiques, and the stuff no one prepares you for.

I'm reaching out because your voice matters.

If you're open to it, I'd love to learn about your lived experience of miscarriage — the real deal: what helped, what hurt, what was missing, what made you want to scream (or maybe throw a muffin at someone).

There is no pressure to share anything you're not comfortable with. I’m gathering different stories to show that miscarriage isn’t one neat little tragedy — it’s messy, complicated, and wildly under-discussed.

You can stay anonymous if you want, or I can change details to protect your privacy.

And if now isn't the right time, no worries — your well-being comes first. Always.

Thank you for even considering it.

Warmly,

Bryn

Can you share a little bit about your miscarriage experience(s)? Whatever you feel comfortable with.

Where were you physically, emotionally, and spiritually when it happened? (like, were you googling "is my uterus haunted" at 2am or sitting in a fluorescent ER hallway?)

Before your miscarriage, what did you think you knew about miscarriage? Where had you learned it (or not)

Medical Experience

What kind of medical care (if any) did you receive? How did it help or hurt?

Did anyone actually explain what was happening to you, or were you left to play "Choose Your Own Trauma Adventure"?

Was pain management offered or discussed? (Or was it more of a “thoughts and prayers” situation?)

Looking back, what do you wish a doctor, nurse, or midwife had told you?

If you could design a basic human decency protocol for miscarriage care, what would it include?

Cultural and Social Reactions

How did the people around you react — family, friends, coworkers?

Were there any support systems or community spaces that actually helped?

Did you feel any pressure to move on, stay silent, or "be grateful" for whatever else you had?

What are some of the weirdest, most unhelpful, or hilariously awful things people said to you? ("At least you know you can get pregnant!" deserves its own Hall of Shame.)

Emotional Impact

What were some of the primary emotions you went through? (All feelings welcome: grief, rage, relief, confusion, full-body NOPE.)

Were there parts of the experience you felt you weren’t allowed to talk about?

How has miscarriage shaped (or complicated) how you see your body, your identity, and your relationships?

What Was Missing / What Was Needed

What support — medical, emotional, spiritual, social — did you need that wasn’t there?

If a magic grief fairy could have dropped off one thing for you, what would it have been?

What advice would you give to someone who’s just had a miscarriage? (Or to someone who loves them?)

WTF Moments and Humour

Do you have any WTF stories from the experience? (Medical, social, personal, anything that still makes you laugh, cry, or scream into a pillow.)

If you could put a warning label or a Yelp review on the miscarriage experience, what would it say?

Is there anything else you wish people knew about miscarriage — the messy, complicated, human parts?

Ifs there anything else you would like me to know?

Are you open to being contacted by me?

Yes

No thanks

Contact

If yes, please feel free to share your name and email address- which is only seen by me.