Spot your Pattern: A Quiz

| Find which pattern is most alive in you right now.

You don’t have to know all your patterns.

You just need to notice which one is leading the way right now.

Every person holds all four patterns within them: Communication Block, Decision Block, Self-Worth Freeze, and Misalignment Loop. But at any given time, one tends to be more active, shaping how you express, decide, or connect.

This quiz helps you see which one that is. Gently, without judgment.

Read each question, choose the response that feels most like you right now, not the one you think should be true.

There are no right or wrong answers, only signals from your system.

When you have an opinion in a group setting, you usually:

Stay quiet or soften your words to keep things smooth.

Speak clearly but feel tense or self-conscious afterward.

Wait until you’re absolutely sure your point is valid.

Step in to clarify or take control of the discussion.

When you're taking a meaningful decision, what happens inside you?

You hesitate to voice what you want.

You make quick decisions to maintain momentum, even if you’re not sure it’s aligned.

You decide logically but later feel strangely disconnected from the outcome.

You think, research, and weigh every possibility until the “right” moment comes.

When someone appreciates or recognizes you, you:

You smile, thank them, and move right on to the next task.

You immediately find what you could’ve done better.

You feel a sudden dip; a quiet discomfort or guilt for being seen.

You deflect by saying “Oh, it was nothing.”

When life feels unclear or unpredictable, you:

Gather information or consult others, needing to be certain before acting.

Retreat and wait for clarity before expressing yourself.

Throw yourself into activity. Fixing, planning, organizing, etc.

Stay functional but emotionally withdrawn until things stabilize.

When someone wants to support or understand you, you:

Say, “Let me think about it,” and delay opening up.

Change the subject or offer to help them instead.

Appreciate it but feel uneasy being the one cared for.

Downplay your needs.

When you feel emotionally stretched, your inner voice says:

“You don’t have time to feel this.”

“Wait. You don’t know enough yet.”

“Don’t let them see you struggle.”

“Don’t say anything you’ll regret.”

Which statement feels most true about your energy lately?

“I’m busy all the time, but not fulfilled.”

“I do well, but rarely feel it.”

“I overthink simple things.”

“I have a lot to say, but I edit myself.”

Which of these desires feels most like what you’re craving right now?

To feel seen without feeling exposed.

To decide without doubting.

To speak without shrinking.

To rest without guilt.