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Attachment style quiz
When someone important to you becomes distant, what is your first reaction?
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When someone important to you becomes distant, what is your first reaction?
A
I feel anxious and try to reconnect quickly
B
I tell myself it's fine and focus on another things
C
I feel resentment. One part of me wants to pull away and other part wants to reach them and ask them what's going on
D
I notice it, but I don’t panic and give it some space
How do you usually experience closeness in relationships?
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How do you usually experience closeness in relationships?
A
I want a lot of closeness and reassurance
B
Too much closeness can feel suffocating
C
I want closeness but it can also feel uncomfortable or confusing
D
I enjoy closeness but also feel okay being independent
When conflict happens, you tend to:
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When conflict happens, you tend to:
A
Worry about losing the person and try to fix things quickly
B
Withdraw or shut down emotionally
C
Feel intense emotions and struggle to respond clearly
D
Stay engaged and try to resolve things calmly
How much do you think about your relationships?
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How much do you think about your relationships?
A
A lot, they can take over my thoughts
B
Not too much, I prefer to stay focused on my own life
C
It varies, sometimes intensely, sometimes I disconnect
D
A balanced amount, depending on what’s happening
When someone shows strong emotions toward you, you:
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When someone shows strong emotions toward you, you:
A
Feel responsible and want to respond quickly
B
Feel uncomfortable and may pull back
C
Feel unsure how to respond, it can be overwhelming
D
Can respond while staying grounded
What best describes your past relationships?
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What best describes your past relationships?
A
Intense, emotional, sometimes unstable
B
Distant or not very emotionally deep
C
Confusing, with mixed signals and ups and downs
D
Generally stable, even if not perfect
When someone doesn’t reply for a while, you tend to think:
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When someone doesn’t reply for a while, you tend to think:
A
Something is wrong or I did something
B
They’re probably just busy
C
I go back and forth between worry and detachment
D
I assume a neutral explanation and wait
If you had to describe your relationship with the person who cared for you most growing up using 3 to 5 words, what words would you choose? Can you share a brief memory or example that shows why you chose it this person?
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When you were upset, scared, hurt, or needed comfort as a child, what usually happened? Please describe one or two specific situations if you can.
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